"Enjoy your presence." - Lisa Sonora Beam
I read a lot of posts and articles about putting down your phone. Mostly because I want to put down my phone. I read most of these posts ON my phone. While my primary attachments to my phone are communication with my immediate family and babysitters and to keep on top of work email when I'm not in the office I do all the other nonsense too. Mostly social media. Mostly the FB. I go through good phases and bad phases. The only time I really want to put my phone down more is when I'm with my kids. I'm conscious of it. I do okay most of the time but it is a dumb distraction way too much. With my husband too. But he's on his so it's reinforced. Work in progress. Not linear.
I probably am on my phone most when in the car on trips. B drives 99% of the time and I do stuff. Most of our car trips are to the same two to three destinations on the same roads for the past several years. There's not a lot of navigating involved. And when there's traffic, I lose my three-year-old mind a little less when I'm looking down. At my phone. Tuned out from my surroundings outside the car (I'm not ever really tuned out to my in-the-car surroundings though we have discussed getting a privacy window installed in between the front and back seats ;)).
Today we went on a road trip. And once we got out of the city, it was all new roads, directions, scenery. After a few minutes of my usual looking down I realized it would actually be more fun to look up. It had been so long since we had driven to a new place and it felt like a fun adventure. A good portion of the trip was not on highways so I got to see even more local stuff in towns I'd never been to or heard of before.
And B and I talked a bit more than usual of late. When the munchkins fell asleep we actually listened to our old friend Terry Gross talk about super serious topics while we took in the sights. And the sunset. And the mountains. All of it. I think I breathed more. My mind raced less.
It's not that I didn't look down at all. But less. And it was nice. Next up - looking up more even when the scenery isn't so new.